• Annik Moyal-Waldman, M.Ed

The Twin Flames for the Soul: Self-Care & Self-Love


Self-care and Self-Love are twin flames that stoke our internal fires, breathing vital chi (life force) into our very being. Best-selling author and luminary, Louise Hay, encouraged the world to love and accept ourselves fully and unconditionally in her seminal work, You can heal your life. As the founder of Hay House, Hay dedicated her life to teaching in the realm of personal development, wellness and spirituality, publishing reams of self help, inspirational and transformational books and products.

Self-care is rooted in the civil rights movement, during which the late writer and activist Audre Lordes said: “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence. It is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”

In this article, you will learn how to keep your inner flames fanned, what the benefits of self-care and self-love are, and why these are vitally important.

So what would someone who loves themselves do, anyway?

treat yourself with loving-kindness ▪ shower yourself in appreciation, compliments and gratitude ▪ treat yourself and your body with gentleness, care, respect and reverence

▪ practice excellent self-care rituals, daily (i.e., breathwork, mindful and healthful eating and supplementation, intake of water, exercise and stretching, affirmations, good sleep regime, spiritual practice, have fun!)

▪ surround yourself with positive people who leave us feeling inspired, uplifted and elevated ▪ You know how weeds will overtake your garden if you let them? Just as it’s vital to clip weeds out of your garden regularly, it’s vital to prune out of our lives any and all individuals who are negative, critical, judgmental and blaming. They are parasitic influences who will suck the life-blood out of your energy. Because negative people will poison your inner garden, be sure to surround yourself with those who leave you feeling happy and energized forgive yourself of your shortcomings, trusting that we are all doing our very best. Mindfully focus on your personal growth, learning and stretching yourself outside of your comfort zone ▪ encourage and empower yourself by journaling, taking time for reflecting on what you intend to create in your life and creative pursuits. In your reflections, be sure to extract gifts and lessons from every learning opportunity that life presents your way