Our Therapeutic Process
We believe YOU have all of the answers.
It’s just that when life throws us some curve balls, we can temporarily ‘forget’ our innate brilliance. Ancestral traumas can blind us to our natural wisdom. Cultural norms may encourage us to suppress this wisdom in favour of conforming to the ‘safer’, but far less rewarding, status quo. Often, our self-limiting core beliefs muddle our vision. These beliefs can leave us shackled to our past, limiting our range of possibilities and preventing us from seeing and believing in our own magnificence.
Even though you may have expended tremendous energy on your own attempts to resolve whatever is currently challenging you, the truth is that we were never meant to face life’s trials and tribulations alone. As social beings, we grow and evolve ourselves through connection with others. It is in relationship with others that we uncover our greatest strengths, discover our inner courage and find out the stuff that we are really made of.
As trained professionals, we ask you focused questions, at just the right moment, to gently encourage and draw out your inner wisdom and brilliance. With deep respect, empathy and compassion, we listen for your unique perspective, seeking opportunities to help you re-define and re-frame the issue, always eager to catalyze your strengths.
We would invite you to consider that the process of therapy is like embarking upon on an adventurous archaeological excavation, the aim of which is to search for answers that lie within the depths of your inner landscape, and to deepen your understanding of your historical and cultural context.
We assist you in digging deep down under your bones. We encourage you to be willing to rough up your knees and dirty your fingernails. Together, as we scour, scrub, unearth, dust off a layer of dirt and grime, cleaning and polishing the crevices of your spirit, we discover lost treasures and artifacts. We uncover parts of ourselves that are unknown, that have been abandoned and are ripe to be reclaimed.
The more we have the courage to excavate and unearth our own emotional landscapes, the more we will sow from our harvest and the deeper and richer will the gifts we receive be!
You will be rewarded with expansive possibilities for yourself and your life that were once completely inconceivable, let alone accessible to you! As your trusted guides on this blessed journey back to your precious Self, we strive to leave you feeling acknowledged, deeply heard, respected and witnessed. In this place of deep nurturing, connection and presence, anything is possible.
We will encourage, cheer, egg and incite you on. We will gently and respectfully challenge you, inviting you to take some risks and practice new behaviours that may lie outside of your realm of comfort. Together, we will celebrate and reinforce your every success.
You will likely feel a whole range of emotions that you may not be accustomed to feeling. You’ll smile a lot, laugh, cry. You will hopefully feel supported in the process of moving through the gamut of emotions you will likely feel. Who knows? You may even have fun! After all, we declare our Healing Works Counselling zone a 100% SAFE zone where ALL emotions are welcome. Tissues abundantly supplied. Promise! In the process, you will learn a lot about yourself. You will grow, stretch and evolve.
As you progress through counselling, you will likely experience various emotional ups and downs. Sometimes in counselling, you may feel worse before you feel better. This is a normal part of the therapeutic process. While benefits are expected from counselling, specific results are not guaranteed. Counselling is a personal exploration and may lead to major changes in your life. These changes may affect others in your life and some of these life changes could be temporarily distressing.
Make no mistake, therapy can be hard work. The counselling process often provides a gateway for change, which in turn can trigger resistance. Resistance refers to any opposition to the therapeutic process. It’s a way of pushing back from any suggestions, which could help you solve your mental or emotional health challenges. You may resist the solutions your therapist offers for a variety of superficial reasons. Maybe you tell yourself that you aren't ready. Maybe you say something is unfair. Perhaps you say that your therapist doesn't understand the whole story. In the critical periods of therapy, they can appear as unpleasant feelings against the therapy or therapist. You may doubt if the process is effective or working, and you may desire to interrupt or discontinue the therapy process.
On a deeper level, your resistance is a defence of your ego. It serves as a protection against the discovery and processing of psychic wounds and deep fears which are repressed in the unconscious basement. It is important that you be aware of resistances. You might forge a contract with yourself to push through your resistances rather than giving into them.
The amount of time it takes to work through your presenting issue depends upon a number of factors: the severity and intensity of the presenting issue that brings you to us, your level of motivation and receptivity to change, your level of resistance, inner resourcefulness, resiliency, how long the issue has been in existence, etc. We generally recommend that you plan on committing to a minimum of six sessions. In only two sessions, you should get a sense of whether our therapeutic alliance is working for you. Even though you can generally anticipate making considerable progress in six sessions, it is difficult to predict how many sessions you will need, as each person is unique. For this reason, we will negotiate the length of treatment with you, as we assess your progress and discuss next steps with you.
In deconstructing your old story and separating your ‘story’ from YOU, the person, we will assist you in re-scripting a new story ~ one with a happier ending of your choice! In being gently guided to re-remember WHO you authentically are, you will reconnect with your Higher Self. You will come to appreciate that you are not your current circumstances or temporary condition.
Where there have been feelings of helplessness, bondage and enslavement, the net result of our therapeutic work together is clarity, a sense of calm, inner peace, serenity and emotional freedom. You will walk away from our sessions together with increased self-insight and self-understanding. You will feel more empowered and confident to experiment with the myriad of tools with which you will now have access. In this empowered and elevated state, all things are possible.
The fact that you are standing here on the precipice of change, and willing to be vulnerable, attests to your tremendous strength and bravery in charting the next steps of your journey. Thank you for the privilege of assisting you!
Together, healing happens!